Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Emotional Intelligence For Personal Growth - Redux

One of my favorite posts from 2010 (I wonder why they discontinued this fascinating series..)

"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting '..holy sh*t ....what a ride!' Enjoy the ride. There is no return ticket."

and the Wolf metaphor:

One thing we notice is that our thoughts and feelings often contradict each other. Our emotional selves and our rational selves often have conflicting memories, perspectives, and motivations. On the surface, positive emotions seem helpful, and negative emotions seem to be destructive. 

There is an old Cherokee folk tale called the "Wolves Within".


"An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, "Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.


But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times." He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. 


But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger,for his anger will change nothing.


Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit." 


The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?" 


The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, "The one I feed.""



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