Lessons from Jonathan Haidt

Reading all these social science papers, theories are fascinating but I always wanted to apply it (quantify it per se) in my life (obviously for better). I had no idea how or when to do it but I was sure chaos of life would give me a chance someday. That someday came few weeks ago; seized that opportunity with all my heart.  Here is Haidt's theory on well... :

"Psychologists have done extensive research on the moral mechanisms that are presupposed in a Millian society, and there are two that appear to be partly innate. First, people in all cultures are emotionally responsive to suffering and harm, particularly violent harm, and so nearly all cultures have norms or laws to protect individuals and to encourage care for the most vulnerable. Second, people in all cultures are emotionally responsive to issues of fairness and reciprocity, which often expand into notions of rights and justice. Philosophical efforts to justify liberal democracies and egalitarian social contracts invariably rely heavily on intuitions about fairness and reciprocity.
My recent research shows that social conservatives do indeed rely upon those two foundations, but they also value virtues related to three additional psychological systems: ingroup/loyalty (involving mechanisms that evolved during the long human history of tribalism), authority/respect (involving ancient primate mechanisms for managing social rank, tempered by the obligation of superiors to protect and provide for subordinates), and purity/sanctity (a relatively new part of the moral mind, related to the evolution of disgust, that makes us see carnality as degrading and renunciation as noble). These three systems support moralities that bind people into intensely interdependent groups that work together to reach common goals."

I had to break into the circle of loyalty to make others believe in my belief. Mere words weren't even enough to create a dent leave alone break into that circle. Patience came to my rescue (thanks to lessons from Max) and eventually broke into that circle today. David Brooks was right when he wrote - "A day without social science is like a day without sunshine." It does has it limitations but if we use it right, it can be our live saving chlorophyl.